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You can read the whole rant here (it's not particularly explicit, but maybe not entirely safe for work)
Meanwhile, here's two or three gems for those who want to click later:
1) Some guys cry. Some guys don't. It has nothing to do with who does what in bed.
14) The dynamic between gay and straight couples is different. It's also different from the dynamic in lesbian pairings. The way two people interact, how they touch each other in private or in public, any number of little things that you don't really notice until couples are put side-by-side to compare. Gay couples aren't the same as straight couples - we don't have a man and a woman and the dynamic associated with that. We're both guys. That means something, no matter how effeminate we may be.
15) If a previously-"straight acting" (or overall masculine) guy sleeps with a gay guy, he won't turn into a flaming queen. We don't recruit quite that much. He might feel slightly more secure in his masculinity over time, enough to where he can admit he doesn't entirely hate techno music, but he's not going to sudden wake up and squeal "Oh GOD, girl! Get OUT with that Michael Kors top! SOOO fabulous!"
23) Not all gay couples feel the instant need to settle down, adopt a child or two, and have a fabulously-decorated house. Some of us feel no need to get married as soon as it were to be legalized. Some of us don't even feel the intense desire to create a child using one partner's sperm and the eggs from that partner's best friend (gasp! I know!).